ARGH. You know, you are cruising along, all happy, then “whack”!! Something happens that really frustrates you. I am sure I am overreacting and that the storm will blow over with no negative side effects.
I won’t go into details (I am the queen of vague), but let me just say that I hate double standards. I hate it when something that is ok for one person for one reason or another is not ok for the other. This applies in jobs, families, pretty much all areas IMO.
Granted, there are circumstances that warrant different treatment from person to person, like employee recognition for a job well done, or birthdays, etc.. However, if you outline a standard, attempt to not deviate from that, except in special circumstances, and even then it needs to be outlined as to why it is being done, and explained honestly. It causes resentment, backbiting, rumors and an overall unhappy atmosphere if it is handled in the wrong way. For example, If you say “OK, the children have to do X amount of chores in a week”, do not say “OK, John did so many chores last week that he does not have to do any more, ever..Sally has to do them all. Oh an BTW, John gets to make sure Sally completes everything correctly”. That is silly. Maybe give him fewer chores, as a reward, or a bigger allowance that week, but do not change the entire standard based completely on the performance of one.
Just an example, but a lot of things happen in my life that causes me to feel a lot like Sally might…she works hard like John, as well as she can, but John always seems to get all the perks.
Another thing is the difference people place on the subject of sex and gender. I am in no way a feminist. In fact, I have a lot of hatred for feminism. I am going to write a blog about it in the near future. But onto the issue at hand. I really dislike the fact that there are different standards pertaining to sex. If a girl sleeps with more than one guy, she is considered to be promiscuous, but when a guy sleeps around, he is more of a man. I really do not understand this concept, at all. Even in religious circles, more emphasis is placed on a girls’ virginity than a guys’. Weird, if you ask me. I even was in a situation where I was berated by some for certain actions, but the guy in the situation was almost applauded, and definitely was not looked down upon. It was quite disheartening. It adds to my feelings of guilt about the issue anyways. That’s all past, but sometimes, after the reaction to it was so extreme towards me, that I feel that people still think of me in a negative light.
Ahh, I am just frustrated. I am sure tomorrow this will seem like a dumb post, but I needed to vent, and my husband listened for a few minutes then went to sleep. Thank goodness for my blog. :)
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