People. They surround us everyday. Unless a person is a total hermit, you have to associate with several of them. In your job, your family, your social life…it’s a given that you will come in contact with thousands of people in your lifetime.
A couple of the blogs I frequent, Atomic Bombshell and Female Misogynist, often share my thought that most members of my sex are evil. Not always evil, but high maintenence, moody and deceptive.
Sometimes I do find females that are similar to myself…not generally associating with members of the same sex, being easy to get along with etc.. However, I always tend to keep myself at arms length because I have been burned before, by jealousy, competition, insecurity, you name it.
Example: When I was 17, my best friend dumped her boyfriend. A few months later, she begins telling me that she thinks he would be perfect for me, blah blah blah. She sets up a meeting, and urges me to date me. He and I hit it off and begin dating. She gets highly jealous of the fact that I was spending time with him that could have been spent with her, and starts asking him for favors, rides, etc., attempting to terminate the relationship through deceptive means. Why urge me to date him without thinking of the consequences? Why be a bitch about it?
Little idiosyncracies pop up with everyone though, not just members of my sex. You can know someone for a year, then find out there is some glaring flaw (IMO) in their personality that makes their company distasteful. It’s my thought that one should treat friendships much like romantic relationships. If the other person has a trait that is mildly annoying at the onset of the friendship, by the time the first year is up, it will be very, very annoying.
Maybe I just do not have enough patience with people. Maybe I am too judgemental. Possibly, I am just very picky about the people I am around. I respect people who can put up with others’ negative traits and still associate with them, because I simply cannot do it. If someone happens to have a habit that irritates me, I cannot be around them in a social situation.
I know people who get highly offended about things that to me, could be brushed off or taken much more lightly. I know people who have even fewer social skills than myself. I know people who are dishonest, irresponsible or careless about money, belongings or even relationships (points finger at self). I try hard to tolerate annoying behaviours, but I just find myself fixating on the behaviour and getting even more annoyed than the habit should cause me to be.
The result of my wierdness? Not having many friends. Not ones I hang out with, anyway.
