Most people would agree that hypocrisy is not a good thing. Being a hypocrite is something that everyone hates.

However, I am in a bit of a quandry…

I have done a lot of negative things in my past. I’ve hurt people, and I have been the type of person that I now am very ashamed of.

For instance, I was once a very closed-minded religious person. I thankfully am out of that phase of my life.
I also struggled with infidelity and sex addiction…doing just about anything for attention and to feel desireable.  It’s been about a year and a half since I have acted in any way (even being overly flirtatious) on those impulses, thanks to my medication and some major effort on my part.

I feel somewhat hypocritical when I berate a person for being close minded, or speak ill of someone for being unfaithful to their significant other. I mean, if I did those things, who am I to speak ill of someone who does them now? This is something I really struggle with, because I really feel strongly about certain things, but I don’t feel like I can voice my opinion because frankly, I am no better than them.

A friend of mine shed some light on the situation today. In conversation I mentioned my turmoil over not being able to voice my thoughts on these situations, and he said that if I do not do those things any more, than any opinions I have are spoken from experience, and I should not feel like a hypocrite at all.

I guess the point is that I am NOT the same person who lied, cheated and toyed with peoples’ emotions. I am also not the same person who would shun people because of thier faith, or lack thereof.

I am going to try to not feel ashamed to speak my mind about these things.

Thanks friend, for your words.