So Yeah…WTF?
March 31, 2008 :: General ::
I’m up late, thinking about a good way to tell my husband something that I myself just found out a couple days ago. No one really reads my blog anymore anyway, so I might was well post it. :)
It seems that something that I never thought would happen…has. I am scared to death, to be honest. I’m not sure yet what I am going to do about this, or even how to break it to my husband that, well, we are going to be parents.
I never really wanted kids; in fact, my husband got a vasectomy to prevent just that from happening. However, it seems as if something in the plumbing has malfunctioned.
Over the last couple of weeks, I haven’t been feeling well at all. Lots of nausea, tiredness, just overall feeling under the weather. I thought it was because I was coming off my meds, but it appears that this was not the case.
Friday after work, I was feeling more crappy than usual, so I decided to go to my local doctor’s office to see what was going on with my stomach, which seemed to suddenly decide to hate me. They ask the usual questions, including the “are you pregnant” one, to which I reply “I certainly hope not”. Well, they decided to do a urinalysis to check for UTI and any other infections, and apparently ran a pregnancy test as well. Imagine my utter shock when the doctor comes in to tell me…not that I have a UTI, not the stomach flu, but a baby growing inside of me. I’m pretty sure I lost a little time in between the time I left there and got home. I stayed home all weekend while my husband hung out with friends, because I was trying to figure out how to tell him all this. With my previous history prior to marriage, I can’t imagine that he will not jump to the conclusion that I cheated on him and got myself in this situation. Then we will have months of him not trusting me until we can get a paternity test. What kind of marriage are we going to have after that?!
Holy hell, I do not know what the crap I’m going to do.
If anyone is reading and has any input, please, please let me know.
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omg! congratulations!
Personally you could handle this a few ways. You can handle this like many women would in your situation. Ask “Do you trust me?” Of course any husband would say yes. Then if he states anything about infidelity, you would say, “But you said you trusted me!”
Another option would be to say “Never go back to Dr. Blank, because, well, the surgery he did on you a few years back….that didn’t work.”
Lastly, the best option. JUST FUCKING TELL HIM! He would probably be happy….I mean, fuck, Derek Prim is having a baby too….and he never wanted kids, but now he’s extremely happy. About the paternity test thing…the baby will come out with some of Adam’s features and all will be good.
Plus, I’m sitting here and I haven’t seen or talked to you for over a year and I completely trust you, so, Adam, your husband will completely trust you. I’ve said my piece,if you need anything from me, just let me know.
If fidelity is an issue you can take him to the doctors and have a sperm count done and that right there will tell him that the vasectomy did not take. Also DNA tests can be done while baby is still in utero. I am happy for you though this was totally unexpected for you, as a parent I know that babies are life changing in many ways, but in my experience the joys of my child far outweigh the difficulties that come with parenthood. Good luck to you I hope everything works out the way you want them too.